Be kind

Should have, could have, would have…. Blah, blah…

You are perfect the way you are!

Stop talking to yourself in less than kind words. Stop judging yourself and others.

You went through a lifetime, and inherited your ancestor DNA, to be where you are today.

Your emotions, your thoughts, even your actions where pre-programmed by your genes and by everything you’ve experienced so far.

I was the self critical perfectionist type: “too tall, too fat, too sensitive, not shy enough, not smart enough and way too smart all at the same time. I was in a lose lose situation. Over time, I became depressed, anxious and angry. I thought that I was never just right. Relating?

Until I heard:” Anybody who has been through what you have been going through would feel the same way” and realized I was allowed to feel the way I felt, to act the way I acted, to be who I was. 😍

You are unique and your experience made you who you are. Celebrate who you are with all the experiences you’ve had. Be kind to yourself when your reaction to a situation is not exactly what you wanted to be. IT’S OKAY! YOU ARE OKAY!

Actually you are just perfect the way you are. And from that point on, you get to decide who you want to be 🎉

How can I do that???

Next time you feel an emotion that is less than pleasant or act in a way you wish you didn’t:

• Acknowledge your feelings and your thoughts.
• Repeat after me. “I’m okay. Anybody who has been through what I’ve been going through would feel the same way.” It will send a signal to your brain that you are accepted, validated, and it will allow your nervous system to relax.
• If you feel the need to understand the reason behind the feeling, you can ask yourself “Why do I feel that way?”, “When was the first time I experienced the same feeling?”, “Is it still valid today?”
• It might be your subconscious reacting because of a similar situation happening in the past and your brain raises the alert system to prevent you to experience the same pain level. It’s okay.
• Acknowledge that you are NOT anymore in the same situation (if you are, you may need to change your situation). Today you are an adult, you are wiser, stronger, better. You are more or at least have different ressources (emotional, financial, …) to respond to the current situation. Yay!!!
• Reflect on how you would like to feel. Hopeful, better, more relaxed, free, joyful, peaceful…?
• Ask yourself, how would I act differently if I felt that way? Really put yourself in the more positive version.
• Listen. You will receive insights coming from your more positive self.
• When you make choices and receive inspiration from a place of feeling loved and relaxed, you make more positive choices, leading from better feelings.
• YOU CAN DO IT!!!